Author Sam Tishner talks about the steps in her book, “Heal First, Love Second” on how to heal after a divorce or the end of any relationship where you lose yourself.
(0:35) Sam talks about how after her second divorce she began to question how divorce happened twice in her life and how can she happy and what and where is missing something in her life to get to this point.
(3:13) We talk about how so many of us lose ourselves in a relationship, whether that relationship is a marriage or not although the tagline of Sam’s book is “healing after divorce” the steps in the book are for coming out of any relationship.
(4:27) Some of the key takeaways of the healing process Sam discusses are journaling, forgiveness, the celebration of her own accomplishments.
(6:51) We talk about 3 different kinds of people: takers, givers, and happy people, and how often givers are with takers. Many times we see the takers with the givers but unfortunately, the givers sometimes don’t learn to give to themselves. We discuss how these types of people especially need to practice self-care and how to do that.
(11:36) Accepting the past and choosing not to live as a victim. Sam talks about some things in her past that she struggled with and the processes that she complied in the book through the multiple steps.
I can choose to live my life as a victim or process my feelings and leave the past in the past where it belongs. I started with one small and the ripple effect continue to grow and change my life.Sam Tincher
(15:42) Finding yourself worthy of love and of your purpose – Sam’s encouraging words to single moms.
More Info on Sam
Samantha Tishner-Barton, known to most as Sam, is a Life Coach and accomplished author of Heal First. Love Second., a book sharing stories and wisdom that empower people to heal their hearts and souls through self-acceptance and love. She has worked in corporate America for 25+ years as a graphic designer and marketing professional and is a mother of two wonderful daughters. She currently focuses on helping others heal and make positive changes in their lives using a loving and empathetic approach. She draws from her own life experiences healing after her divorce and leverages her training with Health Coach Institute and knowledge gained from life-changing authors such as Brené Brown, Marie Forleo, Louise Hay, Dr. Wayne Dyer, and others. She is also the author of an inspirational blog and founder of the iChoose Collection, a brand that is an expression of oneself and reinforces your inner work and awareness.