Certified life coach, Kamini Wood, gives self-care tips for single moms. We talk about extending compassion towards ourselves and how to have boundaries with our children and others when going into a new relationship. At the end, she shares 3 things we should do every evening before bed.
self-care tips for single moms – Overview
(1:56) How single moms can use self-compassion and self-forgiveness to help with they feel overwhelmed.
- Self-compassion involves forgiving oneself, slowing down and stopping ourselves from getting into that judgment mode, and recognizing that we are just spiritual beings having a human experience.
- Acknowledge we are doing the best we can, forgive ourselves just like we forgive our kids, recognizing our limitations.
- When things don’t go the way that you wanted them to recognize that you’re okay and you’re doing the best you can
(4:03) What happens we isolate ourselves.
- We end up judging ourselves and get into cycles of negative thought patterns.
- When we isolate ourselves is we do end up in these places of self-judgment.
- Instead, if we can get vulnerable and reach out to those who can help support us, we realize that we’re not alone.
(6:17) We talk about the danger of social media for single parents and how we end up in comparison mode and further judgment.
- the biggest way to end up in comparison mode and judgment mode because we’re being, we’re seeing snippets of somebody else’s life.
(7:28) What do we need to do to work on if we want to start a new relationship?
- Kamini suggests looking at past relationships and what patterns and choices you made so you can honor yourself in new relationships.
- give yourself that time to heal, recognize where you need to heal, what patterns and, and how did you show up in that relationship where it no longer served you
- as single parents, I think that is so important to make sure that we are taking care of ourselves, recognize it’s not selfish.
(11:38) How can single moms establish firm and loving boundaries with their kids
- Kamini talks about paying attention to the stories we tell ourselves – are we making things harder on ourselves than necessary when it comes to boundaries.
- recognize that it’s still loving to say no to somebody
- especially as a single parent, there’s only so much time in a given day
- if you are whole and complete, you then show up as a whole and complete person and you have, you have the energy and you have the ability to give to your children.
3 things to do each night for self-care
Each evening either in a journal or mentally, list
- 3-5 things you’re grateful for
- 3-5 things you forgive yourself for
- 3-5 things you’re proud of yourself for or your victories.
Do this every night until it becomes a habit, no specific number of days